Friday, April 8, 2016


I don't know if you've heard the Meghan Tranior song No it was on my "I'm at least entertaining the idea of going out tonight" playlist.  If you haven't heard it, here it is:

I LOVE this song. Here are the reasons why:
  1. It's catchy and I am powerless against catchy songs
  2. I like that it's a girl power song without being a man-hating song
  3. The "I was in my zone" line is me to a T. I jam out and look like a complete weirdo by myself and that's how I like it. I don't want a girl crampin' my style either. 
  4. It's a positive message! Girls, you can say no and that's that! Don't feel bad about it. And guys, if it's a no then you got no chance so move on. 
  5. It's fun to sing and dance to. That's very important. 
Women should be empowered to say no. Don't be rude, just be firm. You don't need an excuse. You don't need a boyfriend or husband.

Granted, I have a wonderful guy in my life so I do the "THANKS I'M ALL SET!" as I dance away move.

But I'm not a jerk, I don't assume dudes are tryna get wit dis. (I mean typically I'm the one in a unicorn shirt, jeans and converse dancing by myself to Good Charlotte) But if a guy comes up to dance with me I'm like "nahhhhh thanks tho!" and if a guy buys me a drink I'm like "OOH THANKS, I'm leaving now" and if a guy is just talking to me I'm like "cool, hey! I'm here to get drunk too! See ya!"

There's a difference between feminism and man-hating. And it's an important one.

Basically here's the deal:
  • don't be obnoxious
  • say what you mean
background photo by Ashley Ella Designs
Both those rules go for everyone, it just makes things easier on everybody! If you don't want a drink from a rando, say you don't want one but don't be a jerk about it. If you want to dance with someone, ask them. If you get turned, you're outta luck! Time to move on.

Being blunt comes easier to some people (ME) than others but being blunt doesn't mean your'e being rude!

And if you see that girl in a unicorn tee, dancing like a fool by herself, know she's in the zone and doesn't want to dance with anyone but her beer.


  1. that song cracks me up every time I hear it. I'm engaged but I think this is how I would be even if I were single. hilarious! you make some great points, nobody needs to be a jerk.
    xx, lauren

  2. GIRL, HI. I have legit no idea how I stumbled upon your blog but upon reading back several pages of posts like a total creep, I found out you're from Hartford and like, me too! Cool. Small blogging world. Also I love this song and totally get the thing about only wanting to dance with yo' drank. I've pulled some seriously embarrassing dance moves to get out of dancing with randos.

  3. being blunt comes super easy to me, haha, but even when i was single, i hated dancing with guys. that might sound weird, but i've only ever danced with my friends. its weird and hard to explain, i don't think 'hey you wanna dance' is as big a thing at home? or maybe it's all in my head, most things are. i haven't heard this song so i'll try and listen to it tonight if i remember (can't watch or listen at work, boo).


love and videos of baby goats in pajamas appreciated